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Behavioral Interviews
I’ve had the opportunity to participate in many, many interviews over the course of my career, including over a hundred as an interviewer at Amazon. Over time I’ve developed a perspective on behavioral interviews. Over the past couple of months, as I’ve conducted my job search, I’ve had the chance to be on the other side of the equation with high profile companies such as Meta. That has sharpened my perspective on this interview approach.
About Behavioral Interviews
Behavioral interviews focus on past experiences under the belief that past behavior best predicts future behavior. Candidates provide examples of how they handled real situations. Through conversation, candidates reveal their skills, competencies, how they handle challenges, their approach to teamwork and collaboration, and their problem-solving capabilities.
Questions are typically posed as a variation of “Tell me about a time you did a thing”, and answers are generally expected to be in the STAR format. The STAR format is prescriptive, requiring the answer to be presented with a Situation, the Task outlined to solve it, the Actions taken, and the Result.
My Candidate Approach
One of my core goals as a candidate is to present myself as calm, confident, and competent. I don’t want to be reading from a script, or perhaps perceived as leveraging AI, so while I have my list of examples sitting in a spreadsheet, I have them mostly memorized; I want to respond naturally as much as possible. I want the interview to be a conversation, not an interrogation. I want the person interviewing me to get a feel for what a working relationship would be like. I like to think I’m a strong communicator, and making the interview conversation go smoothly is a specific goal I have in mind.
I also don’t necessarily follow the STAR format as closely as I’ve seen others do it. In my opinion, its rigidity leads candidates to believe they should prepare every potential answer ahead of time. As a result, it can lead to answers that lack personality, lack depth, and sound more like a resume reading session. It also tends to mean that answers come from that predefined set of prepared responses even if the answer doesn’t clearly match the question. I prefer to tell a story, to provide a narrative, with an opening, a description, and a conclusion. I incorporate parts of the STAR format into those narratives, but I’m aware of the limitations in that format and the likely gaps it will force into my answers. Instead, I’d like to address those gaps in my initial answer; I want to control the conversation, not allow for the possibility that a follow up will take me in a direction I may not necessarily be prepared to go.
Sometimes that means I take a moment and think before answering. I do this deliberately, and I think it’s acceptable, sometimes even necessary. I make sure that my eyes are not going to what might be perceived as another screen; I’m keenly aware of body language and when I do stop to think I tend to make sure I’m looking upward if I have to avert my eyes to gather my thoughts. I’d much prefer to take a couple of moments, cycle through my examples in my head, and then answer with something as befitting as possible, or acknowledge my answer might not be the best and explain why it might still be relevant.
This can lead me to ramble. I’m very self-aware and will pause at natural stopping points and let the interviewer follow up if they choose. One of the risks I pose to myself is being too verbose in my answers; these interviews are conducted on a clock and running out of time could potentially be a deal-breaker if important points are not brought up. As a result, it’s critical to have a perspective on time as well as a perspective on what’s critical to surface to the interviewer. I limit my introduction to a specific set of data and time. I have seen candidates who, once they start, are so eager to check all the boxes that they are not able to put the brakes on as they speak. In the hands of an experienced interviewer, that can be handled with a gentle interruption; but if a candidate encounters one without that experience, they can burn valuable time and risk not providing all the data points.
What Can Go Wrong With The Process
It takes a certain nuance for an interviewer to be able to conduct a behavioral interview in a way that evaluates thought process when the candidate doesn’t provide the “right” answer. When an interviewer can’t do this, the candidate will find themselves evaluated on being able to articulate the answer the interviewer seeks rather than on how they mentally approach a problem. This is poor evaluation technique; not every candidate will approach a problem the same way, or have an approach that aligns with the interviewer, even if the result was successful. In the end, confirmation bias can be more impactful on the decision to hire or not than a clear evaluation of thought process and results.
There’s no way for someone to prepare for every possible question. As a candidate, it’s critical to be prepared to pivot to similar situations, or take that moment to think, or ask follow up questions while they find an appropriate answer. The risk here is that a candidate can be disqualified simply for not encountering a particular situation before, even though they may have been able to handle it perfectly fine based on their experience. After a discussion on coaching engineers, I was asked if I ever had to manage performance of a senior engineer on my team. I’ve been blessed with awesome senior engineers on my teams, so I honestly answered no, and provided a counter-response where I coached a senior engineer who was moving to management, not on performance, but on handling new expectations. I’m not sure if that disqualified me when they chose not to move forward, but I also strongly believe that I shouldn’t be disqualified due to not having encountered a specific situation. My background indicates I’d be perfectly fine coaching senior engineers in any situation.
I’ve gotten into the habit of cataloging the questions I am asked and taking my own notes after an interview completes to specifically target the ones I was not expecting. I actually like getting new questions, as I can incorporate them into my preparation.
There are interviewers who struggle to balance the time involved (typically 45-60 minutes) and the amount of data they need to gather. This can result in two poor outcomes. First, important data that could impact the hiring decision might be missed, as clarifying or follow up questions are not effectively executed. Second, and this happened to me recently, the interviewer is not able to conduct the questioning cleanly. I had an interview where I was interrupted after nearly every sentence to either direct or clarify what I said, before I had finished my point. This resulted in a disjointed experience, where the interviewer’s inability to coherently conduct questioning led to confusion, changes of direction, and a clearly poor result. If a company decides to pass on a candidate because there are missing data points, and the company is not willing to follow up to address those missing data points before making that decision, poor interviewing technique becomes an even greater risk to the process.
As a candidate, it’s important to maintain your composure at times like this and make sure that you are clarifying the questions you are being asked, and completing your thoughts before moving to the next one.
Final Thoughts
Interviewing is an inexact science. But behavioral interviews are even more subjective. Too often the inherent personal bias of the interviewer, the training provided, or the company guidance are more impactful than thoughtful evaluation and listening skills. The end result is companies are just as likely to hire someone that luckily manages to match their bias as they are to hire someone that actually matches their skills and qualifications. In a job market like the current one, where there’s an overabundance of candidates, companies are even less likely to feel certain about a hiring decision, and more likely to wait for that perfect candidate.
The Next Adventure
Yesterday, January 26, 2026, was my last official day as an Amazonian. I was impacted by layoffs in October 2025 after nearly eight years of successful delivery. The moment is bittersweet, as I’ve spent much of my time over this three-month transition period buried in job searches while trying to enjoy the holiday season in spite of the uncertainty. I’ve learned a lot over the last eight years, both what to do and what not to do, and I’ve worked with so many incredible individuals.
Immediately after the layoff occurred, I began looking for next steps. One of the more enjoyable aspects of my Amazon career was being a Document Bar Raiser. Giving back and helping so many people improve their writing was an amazing experience. I prepared a professional service, Hopeful Writing, to engage those who want to be better writers and offer professional help. I’m not sure if I’ll continue it or not if I were to get traction, but I wanted to be prepared in case I was not able to find a new role. Now that I’ve found one, I doubt I will engage much with this, except with interns or students.
That said, I’ve accepted an offer as Senior Engineering Manager at Atlassian, starting in mid-February. I’m super excited to work for Atlassian, and to continue to improve experiences for customers, developers, product owners, document authors, and anyone else involved in building something amazing for their customers. I wanted to find something I could focus on for the next several years, and I’ve been impressed with Atlassian for a while now and can’t wait to get started.
I’ll be posting more about my job search experience and reflections on this period of my life in the coming weeks.
What I Would Look For In A Cover Letter
Recently I wrote about how my approach to cover letters changed during my recent job search. As part of that, I was asked what I would look for in a cover letter.
What I Look For
You’ve put the effort into writing a cover letter. Let’s make sure it delivers on that effort.
- Why You Want The Position
Clearly, everyone seeking a position would like a job for some reason. In this troubled job market, people need to be less selective. That’s understandable. But if you can come up with a compelling narrative for why you are interested, that’s a plus. I have a deep background in business marketplace search engines. If I am applying for a position oriented on search, I open with that relevant experience and my interest in those types of systems.
- Why You Will Succeed In The Position
These first three points are all similar, but have different framing. Take this opportunity to articulate why you will be successful if we hire you. It could be your experience, it could be your excitement about what the position will work on, it could be your drive and ability to learn, but make a case that you are going to succeed.
- What Are Your Relevant Strengths
You have strengths. You have experience. Not all of it will be addressable in depth on your resume. Take this opportunity to include a sentence or two for strengths that are directly relevant and will be helped by expansion. This is not for checklist items such as how much experience you have. For example, when positions mention strong communication or strength in mentorship, I use this opportunity to surface my bar raising roles at Amazon for both document writing as well as engineering manager onboarding.
- How Do You Communicate
Most resumes don’t have the space or the context to provide a chance to showcase communication skills. A cover letter provides a chance for you to show how you communicate, to surface your personality. I would not exclusively use AI for this reason; a seasoned communicator will know when you use it and will know it’s not representative of you.
- You Know Who We Are And What We Do
Hopefully you are interested enough to know who we are and what we do. Take this opportunity to tell the hiring manager what about the company resonates with you, and show that you are willing to take some initiative as you target your job search.
- A High Level Sense Of Who You Are
Inject some of yourself into your cover letter, so that the hiring manager can get a read on who you are. Hopefully my cover letter reads the way I want to come across in interviews, as a calm, confident, competent candidate.
What I Don’t Look For
There are things that I will not look for, or hold against a candidate. I don’t believe in mythical checklists or hidden gates that candidates need to be aware of. I’m a big fan of transparency, and won’t reject a candidate just because they aren’t aware of my preferences, especially if those preferences aren’t publicized.
- Personalization
I have seen suggestions that candidates should deeply research the personnel responsible for the position, including the recruiter and hiring manager. I have seen suggestions that cover letters that aren’t addressed to a specific person should be rejected.
Many positions don’t have this information, and even if they did, that has no bearing on whether or not the candidate is qualified for the position and falls into the category of hidden checklist. I address my cover letter as “Dear Hiring Manager”, and that’s acceptable in my view.
- Deep Research
It’s great if you understand what the position requires, have a general awareness of what the company does, and a general awareness of what the company values are should the company articulate them publicly. I don’t expect more than that.
- Appropriate AI Usage
AIs are writing cover letters a lot nowadays, along with other artifacts involved in the hiring process. I can generally glean whether or not writing was done with AI. If I feel like the entire thing is AI generated, that might give me pause; but I encourage candidates to use AI to clean up their writing and narratives.
- Perfect Writing Mechanics
I’ve been a Doc Bar Raiser for Amazon. I know how to evaluate writing mechanics. I can spot typos and other grammatical errors. I’ve also been in meetings where wonderful ideas or highly deserving promotion documents were picked apart due to writing quality. If a document is poorly written, that can be a red flag. But small typos and grammar errors, I’m inclined to ignore.
- Complete Qualification Match
Much like a screening interview, a cover letter is an introduction. The resume is the appropriate place to evaluate qualification matches; a cover letter should summarize why the candidate feels a resume review or a screening interview is in the best interest of both parties.
